A lot of people think that the opposite of love is hate - that loving someone is the best thing in the world that you can do for that person, and that hating them is the worst. Actually, love and hate aren't opposites, but very similar, if not the same.
When you love someone, you would do anything for them. You don't need words when you're together, and you miss the person you love when they're gone. You live for them, and you'd die for them. Love can be as simple as just sitting together stargazing, or it can be complicated. Either way, it's one of the strongest emotional connections that two people can make.
Similarly, hate actually involves caring a great deal about the object of one's hatred. When you hate someone or something, you hate it for a reason. You would do anything to change it to something more favorable, or at the very end of everything you would want to eliminate it so that it can't affect you or anything/anyone you care about. When you hate something or someone, it is constantly on your mind, much like when you love something or someone.
Both love and hate involve the strongest of emotional responses, but they're really not opposites, as both put a lot of attention on the object of love or hate. So then what's really the worst thing that you can do to someone? What's the real opposite of love and hate? It's apathy.
To completely ignore someone, and not acknowledge their very existence, nothing hurts more than that. To have people that care about you, to know that there are people that think about you at all and that you mean something - anything - to someone, it helps drive you. But when no one cares, when you don't matter, it's like getting thrown in purgatory. It tortures you to no end, time stands still, because no matter what you do, it won't make an impact, no one will care.
So with the people that you love, let them know how you feel. If it's a friend you haven't seen in a while, or a friend who you've maybe taken for granted, let them know. There's really nothing worse than just being in limbo from people not caring. I'm really lucky that I had people to pull me out of that purgatory. Don't ignore someone's existence unless you really mean to, because it's far more torturous than you can imagine.
When you love someone, you would do anything for them. You don't need words when you're together, and you miss the person you love when they're gone. You live for them, and you'd die for them. Love can be as simple as just sitting together stargazing, or it can be complicated. Either way, it's one of the strongest emotional connections that two people can make.
Similarly, hate actually involves caring a great deal about the object of one's hatred. When you hate someone or something, you hate it for a reason. You would do anything to change it to something more favorable, or at the very end of everything you would want to eliminate it so that it can't affect you or anything/anyone you care about. When you hate something or someone, it is constantly on your mind, much like when you love something or someone.
Both love and hate involve the strongest of emotional responses, but they're really not opposites, as both put a lot of attention on the object of love or hate. So then what's really the worst thing that you can do to someone? What's the real opposite of love and hate? It's apathy.
To completely ignore someone, and not acknowledge their very existence, nothing hurts more than that. To have people that care about you, to know that there are people that think about you at all and that you mean something - anything - to someone, it helps drive you. But when no one cares, when you don't matter, it's like getting thrown in purgatory. It tortures you to no end, time stands still, because no matter what you do, it won't make an impact, no one will care.
So with the people that you love, let them know how you feel. If it's a friend you haven't seen in a while, or a friend who you've maybe taken for granted, let them know. There's really nothing worse than just being in limbo from people not caring. I'm really lucky that I had people to pull me out of that purgatory. Don't ignore someone's existence unless you really mean to, because it's far more torturous than you can imagine.
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